39: Paula Williams: I’ve Lived as a Man and a Woman

39: Paula Williams: I’ve Lived as a Man and a Woman

Every passing month gives Dr. Paula Williams more and more insight into the experience of women. She knew from a young age that she was transgender. She felt more attuned to the world of women than the world of men – but not really. As a male CEO of a large non-profit organization, Paula didn’t realize just how much male privilege she had.

From her first week living as a woman, it was a daily experience being confronted by how much privilege she no longer had. From a male passenger on a plane having his wine glass refilled four times while Paula had none, to a business meeting where her 35 years of expertise in the field was completely ignored, the reality of being a woman was all too apparent. And before you ask, it’s not a transgender thing. It’s a men/women thing, ubiquitous to all cultures, all over the world.

More in this episode:

  • The essential things men can do in the workplace to make sure women’s voices are heard
  • The difference between thinking you’re a good guy and knowing you actually weren’t
  • The disparate ways women and men think in the workplace
  • How the pay equity act also advances the cause of people of color in the workforce
  • How religion may actually be encouraging the sexualization of women in the office
  • Paula’s realization that as a man, she was judged by her body of work, while as a woman she was judged by the last thing she did
  • The most effective way for women to work, and why
  • How the GDP in the US would be impacted if we had true gender equality

Dr. Paula Williams is an internationally known speaker on gender equity and LGBTQ advocacy. She is the Pastor of Preaching and Worship at Left Hand Church in Longmont, Colorado. She is also the president of RLT Pathways, where she provides pastoral counseling and corporate consulting. Paula has consulted with international corporations, religious denominations, media outlets, including NPR’s Radiolab, and state governments.

As a transgender pastor and keynote speaker, Paula has been featured in the New York Times, TED, TEDxMileHigh, the Denver Post, New Scientist, Radio New Zealand, The Huffington Post, and Colorado Public Radio. Paula’s TEDxMileHigh talk on gender equity has had over 1.6 million views on YouTube.

RESOURCES

Dr. Paula Williams | Website | TEDxMileHigh Talk

Feminist Fight Club” by Jessica Bennett

What Works for Women at Work” by Joan C. Williams and Rachel Dempsey

38: Reesy Floyd-Thompson: From Prisoner’s Wife to Powerful Voice

38: Reesy Floyd-Thompson: From Prisoner’s Wife to Powerful Voice

Reesy Floyd-Thompson begins her story in a Philadelphia courtroom in 2005, when her husband was sentenced to 12½ to 25 years in prison. Prior to that, Reesy felt she needed a man to complete her and care for her. She learned how to be Mrs. GE-6309, but the real struggle came in learning how to be herself with or without a man.

More in this episode:

  • How she set herself and her needs aside to ensure her husband’s well-being
  • When she realized she didn’t know who she was and what her reaction was to that realization
  • How an Olympic baton made all the difference in Reesy’s life
  • What founding a club for women with incarcerated spouses meant
  • Becoming more than “just” a prisoner’s wife
  • How her club spread across the nation, and how trolls pushed her out of the spotlight
  • Storytelling as an act of marketing to let people get close to you
  • Why “take the emotions out of business” is nonsense to Reesy
  • The power of “what you say about me is none of my business”
  • Giving yourself grace to get through the hard moments, no matter how you have to get through the hard moments

Reesy Floyd-Thompson is the owner of The Digital Wonder Woman, a firm that teaches women business owners, entrepreneurs, authors and creatives how to use the internet to make money and how to tap into their experiences—their wonder—and market that.

RESOURCES
Reesy Floyd-Thompson: Website | Instagram
Entrepreneur article about Reesy

Minisode: Be Undeniable and Relentless

Minisode: Be Undeniable and Relentless

In this short episode, host Becky Mollenkamp talks about the importance of being undeniable and relentless (hint: it’s the key to growing a successful business). 

RESOURCES

“Mindset” by Carol Dweck

“The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks

“Braving the Wilderness” by Brené Brown

“The Expectation Hangover” by Christine Hassler

“Building a Story Brand” by Donald Miller

37: Nicole Amos: It’s Ok to Get a “Real” Job

37: Nicole Amos: It’s Ok to Get a “Real” Job

Nicole Amos started her career as a Product Manager in the tech field. She became an accidental career coach when people kept asking her how she did this or found that and kept referring other people to her. She didn’t know other people were doing this, or could do this, or were getting paid to do this. Years later, she had a 3 a.m. revelation that maybe she should be charging for this service. Going down a Google rabbit hole showed her how much she could charge.

With a layoff on the horizon, Nicole viewed it as an opportunity to give full-time entrepreneurship a try. However, she struggled with a lack of productivity, some personal issues, and comparing her insides to other people’s outsides. After realizing that she was trading time for dollars, and working harder than she had in her corporate job, she decided to get a “real” job again. As she puts it, “It’s hard to focus on your business when you can’t pay your bills. And it’s perfectly fine to get a job.”

More in this episode…

  • The surprising reaction to Nicole’s Facebook Live about returning to “real” work
  • How she faced the stigma around having a job
  • The different forms a job can take, and why it’s not either/or with your business
  • How to translate your entrepreneurial skills to a resume or LinkedIn profile
  • Why “my own business” doesn’t need to be a gap on your resume
  • The unanticipated benefits of being different.
  • Scarcity mentality, and how people trying to encourage you not to quit your business are propagating it
  • Why Nicole stopped doing “businessy” things and what she’s doing with her time instead

Nicole Amos is a Product Manager in tech by day and side hustling as a career coach. She loves providing insider tactics and emotional boost to advance your career. Her no-BS approach accelerates your growth so you can focus on what truly matters.

RESOURCES
• Nicole Amos, The Career Oasis
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

 

36: Mariana Ruiz: Adjusting After Burnout

36: Mariana Ruiz: Adjusting After Burnout

Mariana Ruiz began her career as a neurological ICU nurse. She loved the brain and learning about it, so much so that she’d read her first neurology book at 16. But she found herself getting burnt out. She was in constant pain and felt like her body was deteriorating. She moved into transplant coordination, but found the burned out feelings continue due to 24 hour shifts.

After she and her family moved to Texas for her husband’s work, she moved into hospital administration. She was about to oversee three hospitals when her daughter was born prematurely and needed open-heart surgery in her first week of life. She finally realized that the Universe kept knocking her down, telling her “please stop” when she was trying to do too much.

Also in this episode…

  • The factors that led to Mariana’s burnout, and the way she discovered them
  • How strengths can lead to your downfall
  • Some of the signs of burnout
  • What led Mariana to turn her side gig into her full-time business
  • The results of giving so much of yourself to others that there’s nothing left for you
  • Why Mariana moved into group coaching after trying several other models
  • How to actually make changes in your schedule
  • The differences between stress, overwhelm, and burnout
  • Why it’s crucial to make appointments with yourself and honor those appointments

Mariana Ruiz is a Certified Business Coach and Consultant, an international best-selling author, and host of The Impact Driven Entrepreneur podcast. She helps seasoned coaches and consultants scale their business by creating and launching their profitable group coaching programs. She uses her background in brain science, hospital administration and 12 years of marketing, sales and business experience to help you get results for your clients at scale, market in a way that attracts your ideal clients and convert followers to group coaching clients through service-based selling.

RESOURCES
• Mariana Ruiz: Website | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn
The Obstacle is the Way” by Ryan Holiday
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