Why You Need a Business Community

Why You Need a Business Community

Being self-employed is tough. You’re responsible for everything in your business, even the mind-numbing stuff you dread. Trying to decide which trends are worthwhile is overwhelming.

Without a support system, running a business can feel nearly impossible. Trying to go it alone likely contributes to the scary statistic that 30% of businesses fail within the first 2 years.

I’m 15 years into business, but I know how easy it is to think about quitting when times get hard—especially if no one is there to encourage you to keep going.

I hate trends, but one that is truly powerful? Biz besties (or communities or mastermind). They can truly make the difference between running a business that fails quickly and one that stands the test of time.

When life handed me lemons, I started a mastermind group to help me turn them into lemonade. We met for two years. Since then, I’ve started several more peer-led masterminds, joined tons of business-focused Facebook groups, and have had hundreds of virtual coffee chats

I wouldn’t be living my dream as a mindset coach now, if not for all of their help them. That support system is also why my business is now experiencing so much growth.

I believe in community so much that I created my own, The Gutsy Boss Club. If you’re yearning for a community of like-minded women with whom you can talk about business and life, this could be it. 

10 Money Mindset Books You Should Read

10 Money Mindset Books You Should Read

Is money a constant struggle? Does it feel like there’s never enough? Or maybe you swing wildly between having plenty and then scraping to get by. Whatever your particular challenge, you’re not alone if money causes you more stress than joy.

I help women overcome their limiting beliefs, and scarcity thinking is among the most common. If you’re ready to change your thinking about (and relationship with) money, these money mindset books can help.

Looking for more actionable steps you can put into action today to improve your money mindset? Join the hundreds of other women who have taken my Money Mindset Crash Course. You’ll get 30 days of bite-sized, practical education and exercises to help you finally take control of your finances.

(Disclosure: Some of the links below are affiliate links, meaning—at no additional cost to you—I’ll get earn a small commission if you click through and make a purchase.)

“Get Rich, Lucky Bitch” by Denise Duffield-Thomas

Unlock your hidden potential for abundance with sassy and smart advice from Denise Duffield-Thomas. She’s a bit more “woo” than me, so this book really dives into the idea of manifesting. But Denise tells it like it is, so I still highly recommend it even for practical-minded folks.

She says the reason women most settle for pennies instead of embracing true wealth isn’t not because they’re not smart or ambitious. It’s because they’ve been programmed to block wealth with guilt, shame, or embarrassment. Even if you’re unaware of these blocks and fears, she says, you’re probably not earning what you’re really worth.

“You can be richer starting today, if you’re brave enough to define exactly what you want.”

Denise Duffield-Thomas

“You Are a Badass at Making Money” by Jen Sincero

There’s plenty of adult language in this book, but if you don’t mind that then you’ll likely enjoy Jen Sincero’s humor and honesty. This is her manifesto on money, and why each of us deserves to make more of it. 

This book is much more of a pep talk than a practical guide. Don’t turn here for step-by-step tips or exercises (that’s where my Money Mindset Crash Course can help), but use it for inspiration and motivation.

“You can have excuses or you can have success; you can’t have both.”

Jen Sincero

“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Eker

We each have a personal money blueprint ingrained in our subconscious minds, and it determines our financial lives.

Eker explains how your childhood influences have shaped your financial destiny, how to identify your blueprint, and how to revise it to create success. He also shares the 17 ways rich people think and act differently than most poor and middle-class people, including action steps you can practice to increase your income.

“It’s not enough to be in the right place at the right time. You have to be the right person in the right place at the right time.”

T. Harv Eker

Pep talks, manifesting, and inspirational stories aren’t enough to make lasting changes to your money mindset. I believe you also need to learn how to actually manage your money. After all, what good is attracting more wealth if you don’t know how to keep it?

In this book, you’ll get practical tips for ditching debt, saving money, and building wealth. Learn how to do things like build a budget (and stick with it), keep your credit in check, build a nest egg, and generally be accountable for your financial well-being.

“Yes, it’s important to dream—and to dream big at that—but there’s a difference between having your dreams become your reality and having your dreams stay out of reach: being specific with what you want out of life.”

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“Profit First” by Mike Michalowicz

Like the last book, this one is about how to smartly handle your money. I implemented this financial accounting method in my business in 2019 and it not only made me feel like a badass CEO, it helped me dramatically increase my profit margin (ie, helped me make/keep more money).

It takes some work to put this system into action. In fact, it’s a giant pain in the ass. But I *PROMISE* you that it is worth the effort. This is one of the most important and powerful things I’ve ever done in my 15+ years of self-employment.

“A financially healthy company is a result of a series of small daily financial wins, not one big moment. Profitability isn’t an event; it’s a habit.”

Mike Michalowicz

“The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks

No list of mindset books is complete without “The Big Leap.” I believe it’s the first book anyone should read when working on their mindset.

This book can help you create a major perspective shift. You’ll learn about the four most common fears that hold us back, and begin to understand how you can push beyond them to achieve your full potential in work, relationships, finance, and all other walks of life.

“If I cling to the notion that something’s not possible, I’m arguing in favor of limitation. And if I argue for my limitations, I get to keep them.”

Gay Hendricks

“Mindset” by Carol Dweck

Believing you can earn unlimited money is a great example of a growth mindset. Sadly, many of us instead inherited fixed mindsets that are certain we lack some special something required to make more.

This book explains the difference between the fixed and growth mindsets, and offers ideas for how to shift your own. It’s a must-read for parents who don’t want to pass their own limited thinking onto their children.

“The growth mindset allows people to value what they’re doing regardless of the outcome . They’re tackling problems, charting new courses, working on important issues.”

Carol Dweck

“The Power of Broke” by Daymond John

Money mindset work is generally focused on thinking and acting wealthy. But I like adding in this perspective on the importance of staying hungry. It’s not about fostering a poverty mindset, but instead about thinking outside the box to make more out of limited circumstances.

John says this type of thinking is what allowed him to turn a $40 t-shirt business into a $6 billion company. If you’re like me, you find more inspiration from a “pull myself up by my boostraps” story than a “think happy thoughts” pep talk.

“Life is like business, 20% of what happens to you is 80% of how you react.”

Daymond John

“The Wealth Choice” by Dennis Kimbro

The money mindset discussion is dominated by white voices and marginalized people are, once again, pushed to the margins. It needs to stop, and that’s one reason I love this book.

Based on a 7-year study of 1,000 of the wealthiest African Americans, this book offers a trove of sound and surprising advice about climbing the economic ladder, even when the odds seem stacked against you. Learn how business leaders, entrepreneurs, and celebrities found their paths to wealth; what they did or didn’t learn about money early on; what they had to sacrifice to get to the top; and the role of discipline in managing their success.

“Our todays are what our yesterdays made them; our tomorrows must inevitably be the product of our todays.”

Dennis Kimbro

“Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill

Speaking of white people dominating the money mindset discussion…the “founding father” of the manifesting movement is Napoleon Hill. This is one of the books that started it all so, while it’s written by an old white dude, it’s worth reading.

“You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.”

Napoleon Hill

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Vulnerability is Strength

Vulnerability is Strength

Are you afraid of getting “real”? Terrified to let down your guard and allow people in? Do you equate vulnerability with weakness?

I was just like you only a few years ago. Now, I have discovered that vulnerability is a superpower.

In this video, learn how I overcame my fear (and my wish for you).

Coaching Isn’t Therapy (a word of warning!)

Coaching Isn’t Therapy (a word of warning!)

I saw a troubling Facebook recently. A woman claiming to be a life coach said her client is no longer suicidal after working with her for three months (no mention of a therapist or other mental health professional).

❌COACHING IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR THERAPY ❌

This wasn’t the first time I’ve seen a coach making potentially dangerous promises, but it was definitely the most egregious.

The truth is, any coach worth her salt will not promise or agree to help you process trauma or treat mental illness.

Coaches help clients make life changes. The process may involve some amount of reflection (to identify the triggers and limiting beliefs keeping a client stuck), however, coach’s work is largely future focused.

Only a licensed health care provider should delve deep into past wounds, provide medical advice, or engage in patient diagnosis.

Therapy takes a person from hurting to surviving.
Coaching takes them from surviving to thriving.

If a coach doesn’t explain to the difference between coaching and therapy, walk away. If you express that you are depressed or are otherwise suffering and the coach doesn’t refer you to a therapist, walk away.

Life coaches who are “treating” people with mental health issues are giving coaching a bad name. They are harming the profession and harming their clients. Period.

Please be cautious when choosing a coach. Ask them about their boundaries and how they can and cannot help. Don’t entrust your mental health to someone who isn’t actually trained to care for it.

If you have any questions about hiring a coach or when it’s better to seek therapy, hit reply and ask. I’m happy to give you feedback without a sales pitch. Book a free discovery call here.

When Times Get Hard

When Times Get Hard

Some days I’m great, other days are hard. In the past, I’d beat myself up on bad days. My inner dialogue would go something like, “You spent last week feeling great? What a joke! This is the real you—a total loser. A loser who can’t even snap yourself out of this. You’ll always be a loser, so stop trying to fight it.”

Those days are long gone. Today, that conversation goes something like, “Today may suck, but that’s okay. These feelings never last; you’ll be okay. Until then, remember I love you!”

Bad days—or weeks, months, years—happen.

It’s nonsense to pretend that we can all be happy all the time. If that’s your goal, you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment and self-loathing.

What really matters is how we handle the bad times. You can kick yourself while you’re down, or love yourself through it.

Think about how you talk to yourself on bad days. Here’s a little permission and encouragement to give yourself some grace. Talk to yourself like you’d talk to a friend. You don’t have to be your own worst enemy.

It’s as simple as it sounds, but also incredibly difficult (it took me years to get here).

Each time you change your inner dialogue, even just a little, you rewire your brain. Slowly and surely, your unconscious, knee-jerk thoughts and feelings will begin to change. And that’s powerful.

Have a nasty inner critic who won’t shut up? Grab my Silence Your Inner Critic Workbook (click the button below) and use the exercises to reframe the mean thoughts.

You’re Allowed to Want

You’re Allowed to Want

Do you feel guilty for wanting more or less? Do you think you’re not “allowed” to ask for what you want and need? In this episode, get a pep talk about why it’s okay to want, especially as a woman.

In this video, I talk about why I think women need to call BS on the idea they can’t want for more (or less).

If you find this pep talk inspiring, please share it with others!

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