After working with hundreds of women, femmes, and thems as a mindset coach, I’ve learned that one of the most common “mindset” issues that keep people stuck is what’s called “black-and-white thinking.” (Later in this post, I'll share some tips for how to stop black...

What is a coach? What does a life coach do exactly? These are the types of questions I often hear from people who are rightfully confused about whether they need to hire a coach (or if they might be better served by a strategist, mentor, or therapist). As a certified...

Having a son has been the most challenging and rewarding experience of my life. I’ve written before that I don’t always love the act of parenting, but it has been an incredible learning experience. In fact, the most difficult parts have provided the best teaching...

As a life coach, clients (and strangers) sometimes ask me to solve their problems. They want me to tell them the secrets to finding the perfect job, choosing the right partner, being happy. But guess what? I don’t have the answers. Coaching isn’t telling people what...

When you’re having a bad moment or day (or even a long series of bad days), it can feel like things will never get better. You may intellectually understand that change will eventually come, but that doesn’t lessen the load in the moment. At those difficult times,...

From our youngest days, we are told to dream big, reach for the stars, swing for the fences, aim high, go big or go home. As adults, we continue to receive the clear message that if we’re not always striving to “play bigger”—to have and be more—then we’re lazy, lack...

You are not broken. You are not a toy with missing parts, a fixer-upper house, or a clogged toilet. As a life coach, people often tell me that they feel like something is wrong with them, that they need to mend their mindset, that they are broken and need to be...

Women are conditioned to believe their pleasure isn't a priority or, worse, that it isn't allowed. It's time to unlearn that bullshit and reclaim pleasure. My word for 2021 is "More" (as in, thank you, more please), but I decided to add a second word—pleasure. I've...

I’m personally not a big fan of morning routines, though they’re great for people for whom they work. For many of us, however, they create unwelcome pressure. I have a young child, so my mornings are hectic and don’t lend themselves well to a structured routine...

How to distinguish between your true thoughts and limiting beliefs Thoughts aren’t facts, but so many of us believe everything we think. Learning to decipher between our true beliefs and distorted thought patterns is key to changing our mindsets for the better. Here’s...